We were talking about in general terms, not sexual terms.

ahhhhhhh, ok, i geuss i will get my mind out of the darn gutter.

I don't blame you, we've been explicitly posting about sex for the last two or three pages.

Yeah, well, considering the title of the thread anyway, its understandable why it turned out that way haha.

Iv never technicaly had sex but i would say my innocence has been well and truely lost, between getting certain areas stroked under the table by my sisters best freind at her birthday party to a simmilar situation in the back of the car with my ex with our best freind sleeping right next to us haha.

I think when things start to get physical like that, it tends to break down emotional bonds between the people, or maybe iv destroyed my mind with pornography to the point where i cant respect people in a physical context, who knows

dougydarkangel wrote:
or maybe iv destroyed my mind with pornography to the point where i cant respect people in a physical context, who knows

Honestly, that's really tragic

I'll just stay out of that one...
I got no advice on porn.

there are a lot of teenagers that talk about sex like its nothing. im not that hardcore. i think its mostly in small towns or the in crowd. or maybe just unattractive chicks trying to be appealing. lol.


how did deciding to have sex change your life? did you become a "slut" or something? (bwobw)

no, i had a steady boyfriend for about 2 years in high school, that was my first. that ended badly, and then i was with a string of really bad losers, i think that long relationship ending badly was what did it. i didn't handle things in a good way, and was looking for anyone, i didn't really sleep around, i haven't been with that many people, but the choices i made were guys as far away from my first boyfriend/serious relationship as i could. the guy i was with first was a great, sweet giving guy, and i fucked it up. so the guys i chose to be with after that were fuckups, so that made me the good guy and them the bad guy. they were older than me by at least 5 years, and bad drunks or drug addicts. (yeah i know) but my consiosly chooseing to be with them, and not the nice guys i led myself down a road that i wish i hadn't. there were other guys i could have been with, and maybe i was just punishing myself for being a bitch. i don't know. but the guys i chose were the cool older guys, the mysterious ones, and the bad boys. which is fine for a fling, but not to let them move in with you, and then have to suport them, and get treated like shit. but i am way past that now. and i am glad. if i could go back and change it i would. but i think doing it with my first boyfriend made me less i don't know the best word to explaine it, but i geuss i didn't think about doing it as importnant, or sacred. i don't know if that is the right word, but something like that

Reggaeluv2000 wrote:
PersianBellyDancer wrote:
Yeah but it depends on where you grow up.

actually it depends on the parenting these kids get

True.

I meant more if you grew up in a different country and then come to America like my parents did.

bwobw, thats seriously your story?

that sounds like one of those cop outs... but i guess you can chalk it up to not waiting, but then would also have to add all that other stuff you chose to do?

no that is not everything, and re reading it i didn't expline it well enough. it is hard for me to explaine it. here i will try again.

i felt presured by my friends and boyfriend to do it. everyone else was doing it. i felt the odd man out. so i finally did it. and then after that relationship was over i did not see why i shouldn't do it with other people. cause i had already done it. i underestimated how i would feel about these jerks i did it with. cause to girls (well most i would say) doing it equals love,at least on some level, and when people use you just for sex, and then treat you like shit, you begin to feel like that also. if i hadn't done it with my first boyfriend, i would not have given it up so easy to later "boyfriends" who after doing it with, i thought loved me in some small way. so i geuss i am saying pulling the trigger at 16, i already felt i had a good handle on the situation, which i didn't. and sex is what led me down the path, and if i had never done it, i wouldn't have done it with who i did. which those people were bad mistakes. i geuss you could say i was slutty, but not with that many people, not like i was doing it with a diffrent guy every night. but i did make bad choices, and in my miind it all goes back to that one desicion. if i hadn't then i wouldn't have done alot of things.

would i have to add all that other stuff, like what?

to me one desicion is like the begning of a path. that path can go many directions, but which ones depend on which desicions you make. can one diffrent disicion change your whole life? i think it can, but that is just my opinion.

don't know if i got it across they way i wanted, it is difficult to get things across sometimes for me.

OMG Bullet..similar..lol
I was with a guy and chose to lose my virginity because peer pressure and hoping that if I give it up he won't stray as we say...
And guess what-he stryaed. Now looking back ew-what was I thinking. Then I just started to date who ever 2 guys at the same time-terrible...I was young and dumb. Then I met a guy we knew his dad he move up to stay with his dad and he ended up in a fight with his dad and wound up at my house. Well I didn't really like him after livin' with him, so I was a whore and went to my friend with priviledges house...lol..came back and on Valentine's day told him we were over and you know what the fucker does? tries to hang himself in my house WTF? We weren't anything special...It was literally only 3 months I think...I also had another guy try to do that when i said I was dumping them(teen years)... Nice guilt trips, didn't work..I sent the hanger to the psych ward and he called non-stop & I wouldn't talk to him.
I have had my fill of doorknobs that's for sure.. My first real relationship, when I was 18 put my trust level out the door. And I have the best husband in the world in my book and I still have trust issues sometimes...
you keep searching til' the right one comes and you know when the right one comes-well at least I did..I saw my hubby walk though the bowling alley door & out of my mouth I said that's the guy I am going to marry upon 1st sight. and here I am married going on 9 years.
That was 2 months after the hanger guy..I was in an anti man place...It was all about my kid and me & that's all that mattered at that time.

Just one question:
In the last few threads I've been reading: "after i was in love with him/her I had that girl/that boy and then i slept with her/him and all ended up with being with him/her......"
Where did you get all your partners from?
Seems to me, like love awaits you on every corner at some places, while I'm sitting here and wondering, if I'll ever find a girl that belongs to me.
That's strange...

I kind of started getting close with my current girlfriend after I went to her house on my birthday this year, back then we were friends, but we got closer and closer after that, when we started seeing each other more and more. Those times were really exciting for us because we were both in love with each other but we didn't want to tell each other, so we were constantly trying to see how much we could hint to each other before we got the message.

She likes to read these forums too, but she's only posted once. She reads my posts, too.

Hi there

DON wrote:
Just one question:
In the last few threads I've been reading: "after i was in love with him/her I had that girl/that boy and then i slept with her/him and all ended up with being with him/her......"
Where did you get all your partners from?
Seems to me, like love awaits you on every corner at some places, while I'm sitting here and wondering, if I'll ever find a girl that belongs to me.
That's strange...


i met my 1st boyfriend in school, and after that i met people through friends. my husband though i met at work.

there is someone out there for you, and you will find her, don't stop looking.